I’ve been thinking about goals and plans this year quite a bit for the past several weeks, as I’m sure many of you have! I have been trying to think of simple changes or reminders I can have that will make lasting improvements, that won’t leave me feeling guilty or stressed out if I fall short. I’ve seen the idea often around the Internet of having a word or phrase for the year. I thought that would be an interesting approach this year but I wanted my word(s) to come naturally and not be something forced.
Three words came to me pretty quickly: calm, joyful, presence. They are powerful alone, but they also come together to create a really nice phrase that is simple to remember. The fact that they came so easily to me let me know that these were three important characteristics I need to more effectively apply to my life this year.
There are so many applications of this word. I want to exhibit calm in my life is in my mothering and with my children. It’s easy to think that children have it easy in life, but just like anyone, they have struggles and worries and there is so much going on in their little brains and bodies. I want to be a calm space for them. The person they know will be a safe place for them to come to. I know I will make mistakes and will have my less than calm moments, but in just the first three days of this year, I have recognized how an increased focus calmness has positively affects my home and family.
I also want to be practice calmness in other aspects of my life. Small, but significant, ways to add a level of peace to my days. Case in point: Yesterday, I had my day perfectly scheduled out in my head. I would drop off my oldest at school, go home and get myself and my two babes ready to go, head to the gym, and then take my kids to an activity at the art museum. I was super proud of the fact that I got to the gym ten minutes early, because usually I’m rushing in to drop my kids off at the kids club and make it to my class before it starts. Then I realized I left my license at home, which meant I couldn’t check my kids in, so we had to turn around and leave. This would typically leave me frustrated for a good while. Today I made a conscious effort to give myself about two minutes to be frustrated and then move on with my day. Surprisingly, it worked. And due to the fact that I couldn’t go to the gym, I had time to put dinner in the crockpot, so there’s a win. Point for calm.
The second word that came to mind was joyful. I consider myself a generally happy person but I want to work on finding genuine joy each day. Less frustration about the alarm clock going off so early (maybe going to bed earlier?), more laughing with my kids at bedtime. Being more intentional about finding joy in the little, seemingly insignificant moments.
I also want to be more joyful amidst uncertainty and change. As a mom of young kids and a young family making big decisions about the future, sometimes I get caught up in thinking and planning, that I forget to find joy in the present because I am so focused on planning the next step. I tend to over analyze things and worry too much about things out of my control, so I’m going to try to reign that in a little this year!
I think we all hope to be a little more present in our lives- with what we’re doing, with the people we’re with. I am trying to focus more on being present in whatever I am doing and not try to multitask, even if it’s in the name of efficiency and time-saving. I enjoy having a full day, projects and to-do lists, but this year, I hope to focus on individual tasks, projects, and especially people.
Together these three words form the phrase: calm joyful presence. It’s amazing to me that just the fact that I am focusing on these words has allowed me to be more aware of their appearance or absence in my day. There were several times in the last couple of days where I caught myself saying, “Are you being present in this moment?” There were also a few times where I just told myself “I’m fine. I’m calm. Everything’s fine”. It’s the awareness, right?
Here’s to a calm, joyful and present year!